Love Road Block: Take Care

Sorry in advance for the crappy video, VEVO won't let me embed the original MV to blogger.

I love this song, the lyrics especially tell the story of the vicious cycle of love. 

Vicious Cycle.

Love can cause a vicious cycle of pain.

One b*tch scorned by a past love hurts a nice guy, that nice guy becomes a player, who uses and hurts numerous other innocent girls, who will go out and cause even more nice guys pain.

The cycle will never end, unless love ceases to exist.

Understand. There's always a reason.

So, before you go and blame the "player" who left you after a one night stand or the "slut" who slept with your best friend, for your pain, be a little more understanding. There is always a reason for people's actions.

That "player" could have had his heart crushed by his first love, closing off his heart to women and just using them for sex saying love doesn't exist.

That "slut" could have a Father who left her when she was little, leaving her with permanent trust issues and insecurities, thinking a man will only love her if she sleeps with him.

There is always a reason behind why someone is, way they are.

Judgement.

Don't get me wrong, all of these reasons are understandable but most are not excusable. I'm just saying you should not judge someone or think they are a bad person because of what they have done.

Yes, they should not have done it, but there is usually a legitimate reason.

We all do things because of love. Things that we said we would never do. Things that we never even thought we were capable of.

One example is cheating. Everyone says it is something they would never do, but so many have done it, do it, or will.

I know I did something that I never thought I would do. Although I didn't cheat, I left my ex-boyfriend for someone else. My ex was perfect on paper, everything a girl could ask for, but I left him for someone else, someone who I knew was unhealthy, someone who I knew would never last.

Baggage and Insecurity. 

This vicious cycle also creates baggage, which breeds insecurity that people bring into their new relationships or prevent the relationship from happening.

This is why things like "rebounds" happen. Why girls seem "crazy" to guys. Jealousy and paranoia overtake the relationship. Someone pushes the other away. A wall is built up around your heart.


All of these things just makes it harder for the next person. Hinder the new relationship from suceeding.

"change the pace and we'll just go slow" 

Who knows where the vicious cycle started, we could try to track it back or we could try and take more responsibility.

We can be stronger and more secure. We can be more mindful of our actions. We can stop judging other people by being more understanding. We can do so many things to stop hurting the people we love.

We can slowly lessen the viciousness of the cycle. Pain is inevitable sometimes but we can lessen the blow.

Love is a very powerful thing. It can make us stronger, weaker, and stupid.

So, let's do our best to take care of the people we love.